In the midst of divorce, now, more than ever, my children look to me. "They look to me to see how merciful and generous I am in good times. They look to me to see how strong and faithful I am in bad times. They watch, they listen, and they model. Years from now I want my children to remember a childhood lived well, with a mother who was loving, consistent, devoted, funny, disciplined, playful, and totally present and emotionally available."(Kristin Armstrong)
I agree with Unknown Mami. That is good advice. Just let them know you are thinking it over (which gives them peace of mind and also lets them know you care enough to actually think about it). Good luck. Remember, the only one who feels the pain and anger is you (unless you're savvy enough to give it back in spades.)
I am with unknown mami. People really just want to know that you are really thinking of them and they are not forgotten. As long as you get to it when the time is right and it is from the heart you will be fine and you will have done the right thing by responding and being true to yourself and your feelings.
Thanks so much. Just knowing you are there taking the time to read and respond is huge. I did it. I wrote a brief note to say I needed time and look forward to figuring it all out.
Perhaps you could just send a note letting her know that you are not unresponsive you just do not have the words yet. So she is not left hanging.
ReplyDeleteI agree with Unknown Mami. That is good advice. Just let them know you are thinking it over (which gives them peace of mind and also lets them know you care enough to actually think about it). Good luck. Remember, the only one who feels the pain and anger is you (unless you're savvy enough to give it back in spades.)
ReplyDeleteI am with unknown mami. People really just want to know that you are really thinking of them and they are not forgotten. As long as you get to it when the time is right and it is from the heart you will be fine and you will have done the right thing by responding and being true to yourself and your feelings.
ReplyDeleteThanks so much. Just knowing you are there taking the time to read and respond is huge. I did it. I wrote a brief note to say I needed time and look forward to figuring it all out.
ReplyDeleteGiant Exhale. nice