Sometimes offering TV privileges (in timed 10 minute increments) as a treat for desired behaviors (specifically eating and dressing) has been an effective motivator. But is this shortsighted? Am I winning a battle and losing a war? And I wonder: Is it suitable to offer a reward that is not "technically beneficial for my children"? Offering rewards suited to the desires of the person in need of external motivation seems sensible. Maybe I am unintentionally elevating the value of TV.
AND, is it reasonable to reward a child a privilege and then threaten to delay the reward to support continued good choices? Because, we do that.
As a child, my parents did not offer me gifts and rewards specifically significant to me. When my value or idea was not shared by them, it could not be honored. These motivational techniques resulted in their equally reduced abilities to administer effective punishment for me. READ: OUT OF CONTROL!! When
*I wonder how my vastly inhibited impulse control may have been altered if it had been met by hope for some genuine indulgence. And if I would still hunger "to love" people who feel strongly about giving only what they want to give. And when will I learn that no behavior of mine will elicit gestures of sensitivity from someone uninclined that way?