Playmates

Regarding play dates:
Which is preferable....


1) To have children who are easy and pleasing to be around AND  be the high-maintenance mom who is tolerated purely  for the sake of the kids?


2) To be the "fun" mom who's cool to talk to, with irksome children?


As the uptight freakazoid, I prefer the agreeable vibe amongst the little ones.


I have reason to believe that generally,  being "fun mom" is inextricably linked to having pain in the ass children.
I do not credit nervous, white-knuckle parenting for peaceful children.


I'd like to hear from you. Are you either of these moms? Or are you option 3, the perfect combo? Which is your preference for a day at the park: cool mom or cool kids? I hope you will share the benefit of your thoughts and experiences.